Anyone who has gone through their childhood years is probably no stranger to the comic book Doraemon.
Yet, contrary to everyone’s speculations, the lovely girl Xuka chose the `flawed` Nobita instead of the `perfect` Dekhi?
Today let’s go to a very unique explanation.
Actually, Nobita is so good and smart that he successfully applied the COGNITIVE DISSONANCE method (cognitive dissonance: an uncomfortable state of tension when having conflicting beliefs, values, or ideas at the same time).
According to social psychology, if you want someone to like you, instead of helping that person, let that person help you in return.
However, many psychological studies show that helping makes the helper like the person being helped more, even if before, the helper did not like the person they helped.
Let’s analyze an example together:
Tuan doesn’t like Trang.
`Tuan, help me look at my briefcase, let’s go.`
Tuan will be like: `What? Why do I have to help him? I don’t even like him. Never mind, I’m a good person so I’ll help him.`
After that, Trang will ask Tuan to get the lost pen for Trang.
Tuan is having two conflicting thoughts: `I don’t like Trang` and `I’m helping Trang`.
In order to reduce the conflict between the two extremes in his mind and appease him, Tuan had to justify his help by saying, `Maybe Trang isn’t that bad, it’s not because I’m weak and easy to command.
If Trang continues to apply this strategy skillfully, you can probably guess what will happen.
The essence of the above example is that because people do not like to live with contradictions, to reduce the level of contradictions caused by cognitive dissonance, people always find some reason to explain what they do.
So now you understand why all these years, Xuka has remained faithful to Nobita no matter how clumsy and annoying the boy is, right?
In short, according to this theory, `BE LIKE TRANG, BE LIKE NOBITA`.
Source: Controversial Convention
